Due: Tuesday before 8:30 a.m, though it would be best to have it done by this evening.
- Watch the TED Talk by Derek Sivers and take notes.
Link: https://www.ted.com/talks/derek_sivers_keep_your_goals_to_yourself?language=en
- Answer the following questions in paragraph form (350-400 words) by typing your response in the comments section below.
- a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
- b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
You will be marked on the quality of your response and your response to other students’ posts:
9-10: Excellent and insightful; response shows superb understanding and critical analysis; contains great details and responds to complex ideas
7-8: Good; response shows thoughtful understanding; contains good details and responds to ideas
5-6: Satisfactory; response shows a basic understanding; contains basic details and responds only to major ideas
3-4: Unsatisfactory; response shows some misunderstanding; contains insufficient details and does not fully respond to the main ideas
1-2: Poor; response shows poor understanding; contains no details and does not respond to the task
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a) Sivers stated that when people have a goal, they should have their mouth closed. Since the feeling of satisfaction that comes from telling your personal goal will make you less likely to do it. And psychology tests have proven that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen as in the mind called a ‘social reality’ will make you feel that your goal is already done. This mind and feeling caused by telling someone your personal goal is dangerous, even though conventional wisdom says that we should tell our friends our goal which holds us to it. So the long and the short of it is that it is essential to put up with telling someone your goal which helps you achieve your goal.
b) I am on board with his opinion to some extent where it depends on people. I think some people are telling someone their goal for the sake of telling someone. Since they will be able to feel satisfaction by being admired. And once they have been admired, they do not feel like putting in the hard yards for achieving their goal. However, some people are telling someone their goal geared toward putting pressure on themselves to achieve their goal. By doing that, they can burn their bridges and they can focus on what they have to do to achieve their goal. Actually, when I tried to achieve a stretch target, I usually told some of my friends to feel pressure where it does not give me satisfaction. The reason why I did not feel satisfied is I told my best friend my goal who understands me completely. So he did not admire me but got behind me a lot. I think whether people feel satisfied by telling someone their goal depends on what kinds of people they tell. If people post their goal on social media, it will be just because they wanted to be admired by others. It means if you would like to get behind yourself by telling people your goal, you would be better off telling your close friend or family your goal.
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Thank you for sharing your idea. I totally agree with your opinion. His conclusion and their studies that he uses to support his idea can be context-depending. And the theory that was established at that time could be “WEIRD” that is acronym for Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich and Democratic. That means this evidence is probably skewed in fervor of those in the certain background. It is likely that his theory is not for everyone.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
The main point of his statement is that people shouldn’t announce their personal goal to others to achieve it. Because, looking from a psychological perspective, when people mention their goals, their mind is tricked into feeling that it’s already done.
That’s why it is necessary to resist the temptation of talking to others about your goals.Because this action will bring a effect to pursue their long-term achievement.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I disagree with some parts of his opinion. Granted, someone declared their goal will be fulfilled by themself as if they are already done. Proclaiming to other people about our dream also has the effect of clearly being their target. Besides, some people who announce tend to be conceited because they already felt satisfaction through the conversation. On the other hand, some people who won’t be big-head completely realize what they are missing to achieve their target. So I think only people who can objectively see can maintain their motivation even if they obviously mention their ambitions.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
Your summary is easy to understand his main points. It is helpful to understand his speech. Also, I like your opinion about why you disagree with his conclusion.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion. I think so too. It’s depends on person but in my case I have to quit to tell someone about my goal. How about you?
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
The main points that he makes in the video are that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen and that you have to resist the temptation to announce your goal in order to achieve your goal. The main reason he suggests that we keep our goal to ourselves is because just telling someone your goals can make you have a false illusion that you have taken one step to your goals even though it is so not true. Instead of telling, keeping them to yourselves can make you feel you have to go through a long way to achieve them. That allow you to work much worder and longer than those telling their goals.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
Yes and No. I think it depends on how important the goals or the tasks are and the purpose behind the announcement whether people can achieve their goals by doing that or not. First, regardless of the fact that people told someone their goals, if they put the goals before anything, they can achieve the goals without any delay. In this video, the main speaker uses a study to support his own theory, where subjects were given some work. Even though these tasks are described as their goals in this video, it is not necessarily what they really wanted to achieve. So, there could be another parameter, such as how important the subjects think the work are. we cannot apply his conclusion to the real world until consideration of another factor has been done. Second, there are two types of people that I have been thinking of. One is those who announce their goals and what they have done about them in order to confine themselves on purpose to the situation where they cannot escape from their goals. Another is those who tell someone their goals just to feeling complacent and show off what they have done about them. An example of former ones is one of my friends, who started his own business. He was a little scared to be independent of his company that he was working for at that time but had a plan to start his business. The reason why he could do this is because he announced his goal and a plan. Doing so made it easier for him to get information from others and made him feel he must live up to expectations of those around him. For those reasons, I do not think his conclusion is applied for everyone.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
My opinion is basically similar to yours as I noted above. The most intriguing opinion you made is that theory Sivers made on the video, where subjects were given some work that is not a goal they do not pursue. The issue is if the research was taken based on what is not their goal, it means that his theory has not proved. Since, there is a possibility that another factor disturbs this research.
Also, your second point is exactly the same as I noted above, where some people burn their bridges telling someone their goal and give pressure on themselves.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Sivers’ main viewpoint is that when you have a goal, you shouldn’t share it with others. This is because the positive feeling you get from the acknowledgment and feedback of others creates a “social reality.” This false sense of achievement tricks your mind into believing that you have already accomplished the goal. Consequently, this sense of satisfaction reduces your motivation to put in the actual hard work required to achieve the goal. His belief is that if you keep your goals to yourself, you will maintain a strong desire to achieve them. You will be in a constant state of unease, always striving to reach your goals. This internal drive will keep you consistently putting in efforts towards achieving them.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I am neutral to his perspective, I believe that after setting goals, feeling a sense of satisfaction from within can indeed make one feel closer to achieving the goals. However, the actual situation will be different according to each person’s different personality. Some people said their goals because they need external motivation. when they meet their friends next time, if they haven’t made progress or have given up on their goals, they feel a sense of shame. This external pressure force strengthens to their determination and work harder due to no one wants to be someone who talks big but doesn’t follow through. Then next time people see each other basically ask about the results and ask about their goals.
On the other hand, some people tend to be lazy because of their inner satisfaction. I personally tend to this situation, cause I know myself well, so usually I will keep my goals secretly and work hard try to achieve them, but this kind of situation may also take a lot of time, because no one you need to explain and don’t have anyone to urge , only you know how far you are from your goal, whether you failed or you are about to succeed, and only you know everything.
To sum up, I believe that to achieve goals, must find the most suitable approach for themselves. Perhaps, as speaker suggested, adding external motivation, and finding a partner to work together and sharing progress and face obstacles together could be the best choice.
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Hello Keiko.
Thank you for sharing your opinion.
I also agree with your statement. Because some people who are willing to take big challenge tend to has a personality to achieve their goal. But his idea of keeping motivation is interesting because some people will feel satisfaction after they declare their achievement as if they’re done them. But some people who can success has an ability looking at themself objectively. One of the advantage of like these people is they always manage what is the priority to set up their process to make success. I guess like these people doesn’t match his theory until they defeated their temptation.
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a) His main argument is that stating goals makes them less likely to be achieved, so it’s better not to say them. Because, according to data from some psychologists, stating goals makes people feel satisfied and less motivated to achieve them. One of the test results was that those who declared personal goals were able to feel that they were close to achieving their goals without spending so much time on the work to get closer to them. On the other hand, those who did not speak out feel that they have spent enough time, but are still far from achieving their goals. This indicates that the mind has misperceived speech and actions. That’s why he recommends keeping it a secret to achieve your goals. The illusion of the mind leads to the person’s sense of accomplishment and reduces the ability to take action.
b) I disagree with Sivers’ conclusion. Because in my opinion, the most important thing is action and result. This speech shows it is just the process of the mind. It is not shown what effect it had on people as a result such as the time it takes to reach a goal, or the difference after reaching it. I believe that people should tell the goals. As a result, people will be more motivated to achieve their goals, and it will be easier to achieve them. In Japan, there is a word “Kotodama” which means a mysterious power that was believed to reside in words, and the power to manifest the result of what I say. People who by stating a goal, their around will give them advice and help, and people around them will put pressure on them, in another world they will have the energy to achieve it. Sometimes people can’t reach their goals alone. I think it’s good to have a sense of accomplishment by talking about your goals. What matters is the result.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
I strongly agree with your opinion, and I believe that as long as people tell their goals, they will achieve their goals.
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Good evening, Meiko.
Thank you for your opinion. I believe so because I have been living my life goal so far.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
In the speech, he stated that people should not tell their personal final goals to anyone, otherwise they are going to feel satisfaction earlier. About the experiment he said in the speech, I focused on how the each of the students felt after they spent their 45 minutes. On the one hand, the one who did not tell their personal goal to anyone felt that they were going to have long way still to achieve their goals, on the other hand, another side of students who told their goals to others felt that they were almost about to achieve their goals even though they quit their work just 33 minutes after they started their actions. I think the difference between those guys are how far they put their first goal on their process. An obvious example of this is that the people who did not tell their goals might have set their first goal on planning their process. In another example, the people who told their goals might have set their first goals on how well they tell their goal to others. As you know, planning a process is a further goal than telling a goal to someone to accomplish. That means, if people feel satisfaction when they achieve their goal, the people who did not tell their goals might have felt satisfaction later than the students who told their goals to someone. Furthermore, in the speech, he said if people felt satisfaction, they are less motivated to do next step. That means, we could say, in other words, that people tend to be motivated when they are not satisfied from achieving something. And they will keep improving to accomplish their goals. In conclusion, the main point of the speaker is that satisfaction has a bad effect of continuing something long, so we should put our first goal as far as we can and try not to be less motivated by feeling satisfied.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I disagree with his opinion. His opinion is that people should not tell their personal final goals to someone because they feel satisfaction. However, I think there are some ways that people can tell their goals without feeling satisfactions, and also it is effective to improve their ideas. One of them is to tell your goal to someone in a purpose of getting advises by sharing an idea with other people. It is important to keep motivated to achieve your goal, however, it is also important to improve your basement of your action before you start the real hard actions, because you might miss your goal and what you finally you want to do while you are working on your process if your goal is not clear and detail. Furthermore, it will not have you feel satisfaction to tell someone your goals if you just try to get someone’s advice. Because if you do that, that means you are motivated to make a clear goal and be successful. In other words, you are not motivated to tell your goals to others well and feel good to say it loud. In conclusion, I disagree with his opinion because we can make our goals clearer and more detail by sharing it with others, and it will not have us less motivated to keep our actions.
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Good afternoon, Keisuke,
Thank you for your opinion! I agree with your opinion that you might miss your goal and what you finally you want to do while you are working on your process if your goal is not clear and detailed. Because if I don’t talk about it, I don’t think even my mind can organize what I should do. I am in favor of speaking out to bring mind and action in the same direction.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Silvers’s main point is that you should keep your mouth shut as for your goal because when people tell someone their goal makes it less likely happen. Psychologist calls it social reality, and people feel that it is already done because they had satisfaction and less motivated to do actual hard work necessary.
For example, he examined that 163 people were divided into two groups: one that presented their goals spent 45 minutes t to achieve their goals, and another that didn’t present their goals could quit anytime. Therefore, people should do say different ways to achieve their goals.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I partly agree with his idea because even if people tell their goals to someone, it is easy for them to get satisfaction and give up. However, I would say that when I tell someone my goals, I feel like I have to achieved them, and I can get more motivation from others. Because I have an experience that I couldn’t get high scores on exam as I never said that I’d had to get high score, however, when I said that to my friends, I had gotten the highest scores on it. So, I think telling or sharing someone my goals should be useful to achieve them.
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Good morning, Yuri.
Thank you for sharing your opinion. I agree with your opinion that we should share our goals with someone to achieve it. Also, I think, as your experience has proved, that saying our goals sometimes allow us to know what we finally want to be able to do more detail.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
He pointed that “to come true our goals, we had better not to tell about them to anyone because it cause “social reality” and reduce the chance that it happen.” Some people include me want to share the goals to cooperate and achieve myself, but actually the perspective is wrong. As Sivers told us, telling our goals to someone is just steal our motivation and interrupt our training to close to them because we can feel satisfaction. In addition, he introduced us one survey that examined about which people work hard for their goals telling it someone or no. The result showed people who didn’t tell their goals worked much harder and they are still feeling so far from the goals. It means by keeping our goals in ourselves we can focus on them to work without any interruption.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
In his conclusion, he said that “By telling your goal to someone is just gives you satisfaction earlier and interrupt you to work on them even you haven’t done it, so it’s better not tell about them to someone.” I don’t agree with his idea because I suppose that depends on how we tell our goals, it gives us positive aspects. For example, just telling the goal to someone might gives us only satisfaction. However, not only what we want to do, tell someone with your process how to try, it will give you motivations and encourage you. This doesn’t want gratifications, it requires some helps to get close for final goals. Plus, as I said in Question a, for some people, it’s too hard to work on the goals without any help and cooperation. Sivers doesn’t recommend us to tell our goals to someone. Otherwise, it will be harder for these people to work with only their mind. I believe that telling with more detail such as the process, it is fine to share with someone your goals or it will be better than keep in our mind. Because of these perspective, I disagree with his idea.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion Akane
But about Siver’s conclusion, I think it depends just like you said, sometimes sharing your goals can be helpful it does can provide you help or motivation, but he also has a point in my opinion and he shares proof of his point, so for me is really share if you want to.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
In this video, he says he shouldn’t tell others about the personal goals are. This is because talking about goals reduces the will to practice. Psychologists say that when talk to someone about a goal and they react, we can actually feel that we have achieved it. The satisfaction you get from other people’s reactions reduces the desire to actually realize that desire. If you endure the temptation to bring your hopes out of your mouth, you will gain the satisfaction of honest social recognition when you actually realize them.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I don’t agree. I can make more specific plans by telling others my goals. Also, when I talk about a goal, I realize that I really want this goal. In the process of talking about my wishes with others, I can get more motivation and try to achieve that goal. I can also continue to develop without being lazy, feeling a little pressure not to fail what you have told others.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
I can understand what you want to say about b’s opinion.
However, I am so lazy, so I cannot achieve the goal if I feel the little satisfaction. Have you ever felt satisfaction with what you are saying?
Actually, I have a lot of experiences about it.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
I was impressed that you think people realize how want the goals as talking to someone. Also, I think sharing our goals with peers is really useful to seek our goals while exchanging opinions.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
He stated that we shouldn’t tell anyone and keep it a secret when we have a new goal, otherwise it will reduce the chance of realizing. Psychologists have found that it’s called a “social reality. It’s because the brain has a substitution effect. When you tell people about your goals, their support and encouragement will create a sense of satisfaction in your heart. It will slow down your motivation to continue to work hard and give you the illusion that you have already done something.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
Personally, it doesn’t matter whether you tell someone about your goals or not. I can’t generalize about it because everyone has their own way to reach the goal. Some people prefer to speak out and let someone push them, while others prefer to keep it to themselves. In my case, the best way is to write down clear and definite goals and set deadlines. It can become highly effective at completing these goals. Also, I sometimes tell my family and friends. They will make a good suggestion or give me some ideas. I feel that it depends on the situation. Above all, you have to take the first step, put in effort and stick with it.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
I agree that everyone has their own way of achieving their goals, and you can get more advice by speaking your mind with people you know well. Some people choose to speak up because it gives them more motivation. As you said, it’s important to start executing on your goals.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
I agree with your opinion, especially b).
I also think that it is depends on situation to tell someone.
Therefore, people should make decision with considering the situation.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Sivers’s main point is that you should not tell people about your personal goal, or you should talk your goal in a way that give you no satisfaction. The reason why he said we should keep our goals to ourselves is because if people tell someone about their personal goal, they feel like it already becoming part of our identity and this good feeling will make people’s feeling less likely to do something even if they need more steps to achieve their personal goal. According to the test in 2009, it proves that people who do not say about their goal continue to work full time that they have but people who say about their goal to someone stop their working in average of 33 minutes. It is because they already feel satisfaction. To sum up, his idea is it is better not to tell people their personal goal.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I agree a little with his idea. This is because his idea is already proved and by phycology test and also, I have a same kind of experience. However, I am a talkative person, so I cannot resist the temptation to announce my goal. So, as Sivers said in his speaking, I want to talk about my goal with the way I don’t get satisfaction. I think it will make me feel like I want to do more and more to achieve my goal. I think the best way for me to get no satisfaction with my talking is to talk about the things that I have to do for my personal goal. When I talked about what I did before, I remember that I felt a lot of satisfaction and after that I could not achieve the goal. I have a lot of these kind of experiences. From now on, I try not to talk about what I did to achieve my goal, but I will say what I want to do.
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Thank you for your opinion.
I like you idea that trying not to talk about what I did to achieve the goal, but say what I want to do. I think this kind of solution is very good because I don’t think it is a bad to share the goal.
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I experienced such kind of things, too. Most of the time I told someone a goal that I want to achieve, I became satisfied and procrastinate for tomorrow or next month. The more the goal is hard to realize, the more I postpone things later and later.
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Thank you for sharing your idea. I totally agree with your opinion. His conclusion and their studies that he uses to support his idea can be context-depending. And the theory that was established at that time could be “WEIRD” that is acronym for Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich and Democratic. That means this evidence is probably skewed in fervor of those in the certain background. It is likely that his theory is not for everyone.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Sivers states that people should have a goal, because if we have a goal, we can do more hard. But you have to check how you say your goal to some people.
The most important thing is that if you want to say about your goal, you should say with if I stop the something, please tell me. Psychology test found that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen, and when you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, psychologists have found that it’s called a “social reality”. So you should resist the temptation to announce your goal. After that, you can delay the gratification that the social acknowledgment brings. Also, you can understand that your mind mistakes the talking for the doing.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I agree, because I like communicate with my friends. Always, I talk my a goal to my friends, because I can do more hard about that things. But I don’t talk about my a goal to not closed friends. I trust just my best friends. It does not mean that I don’t trust other people. I think that to talk my a goal to my friend but it’s not but that I say about just my a goal. I think that some people have a best friend. A best friend really thinks about you. So, when you stop going to the goal, you need to ask your friends to encourage you.
On the other hand, I usually talk with my mother. My family is always my perspective. It means that If I stop going to the goal, my family always say me “You are stopping. If you go to the goal, you should do more hard or be hard on yourself.”. So my opinion is that if you want to talk about your goal, you should talk to your best friends or person who you can trust, or your family.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Sivers’ main points.We should keep our goals and refrain from declaring our goals. The reason is that when we speak out our goals, we will feel a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment in our hearts as if the goal has been achieved. This sense of satisfaction can reduce our motivation to put in the effort to achieve our goals. At the same time, feeling this way will make our minds think that the goal has been achieved. This in turn reduces our motivation. Sivers refers to various psychological tests conducted by Kurt Lewin in 1926, Wera Mahler in 1933, and Peter Gollwitzer in 1982 and 2009. In this test, it can be known that those who state their goals have a low completion rate, but do not state them People who have their own goals have more dedication and effort. In short, reduce the satisfaction of announcing your goals, focus on achieving goals and specific actions, and humorously remind everyone at the end that you can be more motivated to complete your goals with your mouth closed.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I half agree and half disagree, but I think it depends on the situation. If today I announce my goal and need everyone’s help, this process is the key to achieving it. But if my goal today is personal action, then I will agree with him, because from my own experience, I have indeed said that many of my goals are full of superiority, and when I want to achieve the goal, I will obviously feel that I have no energy. There are roughly two types of mentality. The first one is that I think everyone knows my goal, and it doesn’t matter if I have completed it or not. The second is that we often want to attract everyone’s attention, but we can’t wait to share it so that the mystery is no longer special. But after learning this information today, I will choose to hold on to my goal and announce it when it is completed.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
In the video, he makes the major claim that sharing your goals with someone else makes you feel better, makes you feel closer to achieving them, makes you feel like they are already a part of who you are, and decreases your chances of acting on them.
The experiment was conducted in 2009, and 163 people wrote their personal goals on the paper. Half of them share their goals, and the other half do not. After that, they were given 45 minutes to work toward each goal. But they could stop at any time. People who didn’t share their goals used it all the time and said that it was still far from their goal. People who shared their goal, on the other hand, finished making an effort for 33 minutes and reported seeing progress toward the goal. Due to this, telling someone your goal makes its realization seem far away. That is why silver says we should keep our goals to ourselves and how this process works.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I would like to believe that sharing your own goal with someone helps you achieve it. In Japan, I think it is a habit to write down the goal before doing something. For example, before any events at the school such as a sport festival, a singing concert competition, or even a field trip. I think it will be a signpost of those events, and it will show us what we need to do. In all my experience, I have never failed to achieve a goal because I wrote it. However, if it is going to be like the results of the 2009 experiment, I think Japanese education should be change.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
To write down your goal on the paper is one of the effective ways to achieve your goal as same as speaking it out loud.
I think it is important to think about what you need to do when realizing your goal throughout the process of writing or telling your goal.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
His points of this speech are that you should keep your goal secret rather than telling someone when you have a goal, or your goal are less likely to be successful. The reason for this is that you need to keep your motivation until you finally achieve your goal. If you tell someone your goal, you would be partially satisfied. You may feel like you are one step closer to your goal by telling someone. In addition, once someone acknowledges your goal, the fact may produce “social reality”, which can trick your mind and you will feel like you’ve already reached your goal. Then, of course, you’re less motivated to work toward your goal. In this way, telling others your goal can discourage you to keep your motivation to achieve it. That’s why, it is important to keep your goal secret.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I disagree with his opinion that you should have kept your mouth shut to achieve your goal. I have two reasons for this from the two perspectives of extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. First reason is, from the aspect of extrinsic motivation, that other people can support you to accomplish your goal by telling them your goal. Even if you don’t want to continue to work harder, they can cheer you up. They all know your goal. When you are lazy and feel like it would be better to give it up, they may help you to come back your way. Furthermore, to talk to someone about your goal is going to be a good pressure for you. Another reason from the perspective of intrinsic motivation is that you can once again become keenly aware of your goal and understand it deeply by speaking out your goal and talking to someone. By saying out loud, “I want to be like this or do this in the future,” rather than just thinking it vaguely in your mind, you can strengthen your desire to achieve that goal and increase your motivation. In fact, it is said that words have strong power. If you actually put your goals into words and say it out loud, they are more likely to be realized. To tell someone your goal, instead of keeping it secret, can create not only extrinsic motivation but also intrinsic one, and it can be helpful for you to reach your goal.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
His main point is that people should not talk about their goal what they want to do. It means that talking about how they want to make an effort leads to failure. Through his lecture, people tend to be satisfied with talking to someone about what they try to do. People tend to feel that their goals have already done when someone acknowledges their goals. In addition, he says that many researchers proved that phenomenon. For example, Kurt Levin when it was in 1926 called that phenomenon for “substitution”, Wera Mahler when it was in 1933 found that if someone acknowledge, it felt real mind, and Peter Gollwizer when it was 1982 wrote a book about the details of that phenomenon. Therefore, he recommends that they shouldn’t tell someone what they want to make an effort.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
In my opinion, I half agree with him, and half disagree with him. Sometimes people should tell someone what they want to make an effort, sometimes people should not tell someone that. People tend to give up easily on what they try to do. Because to keep trying your best or to make an effort is so hard for people. They must maintain their mind strictly. So they sometimes give up so easily. However, if they talk about what they want to do, they will not be able to give up easily. Because if they give up so easily, they will be embarrassed. So people should talk about that someone not to give up easily. On the other hand, I agree with his opinion. Because I experienced that I am satisfied with talking to someone what I want to make an effort. Therefore, people should make a decision which is better for themselves to talk about what they want to do to someone or not through their own characteristics. In addition, people should have to know about the details of their own characteristics.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
I agree that people must maintain their mind strictly. My opinion is that when you tell someone what you want to do, you won’t be able to quit halfway, and I had the same experience as you. So I really agree with you.
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a) He argues that one should keep one’s goals to oneself, rather than telling others about them. Based on the data of actual experiments and the results of psychological studies, he says that talking about one’s ambitions can keep them from being realized. He says that talking about one’s goals and having them recognized by others has become the goal, when the goal should be to realize them. From this he argues that one should only try to be recognized by society after it has been realized. Also, in the unlikely event that you are in a situation where you have to say it, you should say it in a way that will be supported by those around you, so that you do not feel complacent.
b) I disagree with his opinion.
In my country, we have a word “Kotodama” which means if people saying your wish, it will be come true. From when I was young, I have been believed this word. I often discuss my future with my best friend. We talk about everything from small things to big wishes and support each other. In this way, by saying it out louHe argues that one should keep one’s goals to oneself, rather than telling others about them. Based on the data of actual experiments and the results of psychological studies, he says that talking about one’s ambitions can keep them from being realized. He says that talking about one’s goals and having them recognized by others has become the goal, when the goal should be to realize them. From this he argues that one should only try to be recognized by society after it has been realized. Also, in the unlikely event that you are in a situation where you have to say it, you should say it in a way that will be supported by those around you, so that you do not feel complacent.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion. I really enjoy your comment. I know “Kotodama” much because I’m also Japanese. I love this word. I heard that words which we speak have souls or spilits, like creatures, word are living and have power like god (these are Japanese unique opinion). Then positive words which we speak make us happy and vice versa. So that’s why I disagree with his opinion, too. I believe that if I talk about my future positively to other people, I will be happy in the future.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
His main argument is when we make a goal,we should not say it another person. If we say the goal, the possibility of success become lower. Because,when we aim to success something, we fight a lot of difficulty.In short,untill success we do not feel satisfied.However, If we say the goal to someone, we feel satisfied. Sivers said that it is decreased the our motivation. In addition, he used an experiment as evidence. It show thet people who said the goal finished the work early. Because,they felt satisfied early. On the other hand,people who did not say the goal use the full time. Because, they did not feel satisfied compared to people who did not say the goal. In short Sivers said that we should not say the goal to someonebecause of raise a rate of success something.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I disagree with his arguments. Because, I think that to say the goals to someone, it can give a pressure for me. In my case, I think that it will go to the good direction. For examole, if I make a goal and say the goal to my friends, said people will watch over me. Also,when I said the goal to my friends, I could be conscious of my goals again.
In addition, I belive that to share the goal to someone, I can get a chance.Because, shareing the goal to someone it means that it is known a lot of people by person to person. So it connect to getting some advice and gather the imformation, compared to people who do not say the goal to someone. For these reasns, I disagree with his arguement.
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a)What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
When we kept our goal in my mind, we are likely to achieve our goal. On the other hand, when we told our goal to someone, we are not likely to accomplish our goal. We lose the motivation towards the goal, then be fulfilled just saying the goal out loud. This phenomenon is called “social reality” in psychological industry. At first, this effect was named “substitution” by Kurt Lewin, and secondary, Wera Mahler found that when we were recognized by other person, our mind feels like real, and third, Peter Gollwizer wrote a book about this effect and did some new tests. The new test was also published and the content is like this, he let the participants write their goal, and separated people who speak someone about their goal and people who don’t talk about it. As a result, people who kept silence could kept on striving toward their aim much longer than people who told their aim. As this experiment shows, it is more likely to accomplish our goals when we don’t tell anybody. Also when we in the situation that we have to say about own goals, we have to be careful not to make ourselves satisfacted, and change the way to explain the goal.
b)Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I agree with him. When I was in high school, I had to study hard to prepare for the examination for the university. My teacher said that we would write a university that we
want to go, and what would we do from now in detail, then we had to propose it in from of my classmates. Most of the classmates were long for entering a private university and they don’t take writing examination, and just prepar for an interview test. Only a few students were long for entering a public university, which has two writing test. Harder one is latter one, and I was one of them. When we shared our goals, and listening to each of them, I felt the people who would go to a pribate university don’t need to study as hard as we do, so I remember that I felt that I have to strive more than they do, but at the same time, I felt that if I studied more, that’s fine. My motivation for study went down. After I confessed my plan to study and goal, I felt like I’m struggling more than you do, and was conceited. As expected, my mock test score goes up a little, however the score was not enough to succeess to the university. While preparing for the exam, I got stressed because students who were long for entering a private university succeessed to the exam and adopted to the university. I felt that I’m making efforts to imorove my score, but why are people who long for going to a private high school succeess without hard effort. I felt unfair and my motivation went down more and more. After they succeessed, they talk a lot during classes, sleep, and don’t join classes. I was frastrated, and asked my teacher but the situation didn’t change and I got sick. Of course I couldn’t pass the university, and no one could pass a public university. From this experience, I agree that we should keep our own goals in our minds. Like this experience, telling my goals other person leads to a bad result.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
I understand why you agree with his opinion, because you have had unsuccessful experiences when you told your goals. To be honest, I had similar experiences like you, so I agree with your reasons.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion!
I understand that you agree with his opinion based on your own experience. I have a different opinion with you, but I have read about your experience and found that sometimes it is better to keep the goal in mind
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Sivers’ main argument is that stating goals makes them less likely to be achieved, so it’s better not to say out loud of your goal. Because, according to data from some psychologists, stating goals makes people feel satisfied and less motivated to achieve them. One of the test results was that those who declared personal goals were able to feel that they were close to achieving their goals without spending so much time on the work to get closer to them. On the other hand, those who did not speak out feel that they have spent enough time, but are still far from achieving their goals. This indicates that the mind has misperceived speech and actions. That’s why he recommends keeping it a secret to achieve your goals. The illusion of the mind leads to the person’s sense of accomplishment and reduces the ability to take
action.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
The idea that stating goals may reduce their likelihood of achievement is supported by the “Goal-Setting Theory,” indicating that public declaration can create a false sense of accomplishment, leading to decreased motivation. However, its impact varies among individuals and the context of the goal. Some people thrive on external accountability and may find stating goals publicly beneficial. They feel more committed and encouraged by the support and pressure from others. On the other hand, some individuals may be more intrinsically motivated and prefer to keep their goals private, avoiding potential complacency from premature satisfaction. It’s essential to consider personal preferences and the nature of the goal. For critical, long-term goals, it might be better to share them selectively with trusted individuals who can provide genuine support and constructive feedback. Balancing the benefits of external accountability with the risks of complacency is crucial. In conclusion, the decision to state goals out loud should be made based on individual traits and the goal’s complexity to enhance the chances of successful achievement.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Sivers said that people should not tell someone about their goals. Because telling someone about your goal makes it less likely to do. When you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, you feel like that it is already done. it is called a “social reality”. And then because you have felt that satisfaction, you are less motivated to do the hard work that actually needs to be done. One social psychologist called this “substitution”. Instead of telling someone about your goals, keep them to yourself make you feel that you have to work hard. And it will motivate you work hard for longer than if you told someone about your goal.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I disagree with his opinion on several points. As he says, telling someone about your goals might be partly related to your efforts to achieve them. However, I think that efforts to achieve goals are more strongly related to how important the goal is and the reason why you want to achieve it. In addition, he mentioned the date from the experiment, but it seems to be difficult to divide the participants into two groups based on only whether they told someone about their goals or not. I think that person’s approach to achieve goals depends a lot on their personality. And I think that it is very effective and important when people try to achieve a goal in a group. By telling about goals, you might be able to get supports or advice from others. It will help you achieve your goal a lot. I had the experience that I told my friends that my goal is to pass that exam by the end of this year. However, the study for the exam was so stressful that I thought about quitting to take the exam, but I was able to keep trying because I had already talked about my goal to my friends. As he said, telling someone about goals may give them a sense of achievement and may become barriers to work on goals. However, from my own experience, sharing goals with others can be a good stopper to quitting trying. In conclusion, I partly agree with his opinion, but I disagree on some points, because there are many factors related to achieve goals and it is not so simple as he said.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
I agree with your opinion especially the way of approaching to the goal is depends a lot on their personality. I prefer approach to the own goal by working in a group. As you mentioned, it depends on a lot on their personality, and if it works well, it is effective way to achieve the goals in a group. Also, it is important point that it might be able to get supports or advice from friends. If I get in trouble, I need help from my friends and if I don’t have it, it will not success to achieve goal. I have same opinion with you that it’s not always appropriate to achieve goal by individually.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
There are two main points that he stated in the video. Firstly, he said that we shouldn’t announce our goal to someone. As he said in the video, when people said their goal to someone, it makes them less likely to do. It has proven by some psychology tests. Psychologists have found the mind which called “social reality”. This mind has tricked people into feeling that it’s already done. Because of this, people feel satisfaction, and it makes them less motivated to do the hard work that they need to do. Therefore, he stated that people shouldn’t announce their goal to someone. People should have kept their mouth shut. Secondly, he said that people have to resist the temptation. The social acknowledgement makes your feeling gratification, and this makes people wants to announce their goal to someone. However, as he mentioned in the video, if people need to announce their goal, they can state in which doesn’t give you any satisfaction. These are the two main points in this video that he stated.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I partly agree with his opinion. He stated that people shouldn’t announce their opinion to someone because they will feel satisfaction. This has proved by some psychology tests, but I don’t agree with this part of his opinion. This is because, I have the experience that I felt lazy to achieve my goal and I made my goal lower and easier. No one knows my goal, so I can change it easily, but If I announce my goal to someone, I can’t change my goal because they know my goal that I made. To prevent change my goal for bad way, I and my friends often announce goal each other, and try not to make my goal lower and easier. Also, I think to announce goal each other doesn’t make satisfaction because if I announce my goal who understand their personality well, they don’t praise me until I achieve my goal. Also, they root me until I achieve my goal, so it motivated me to work hard to achieve my goals. I think it is these are the good effect to tell my goal to someone. However, I learned that the mind called “Social reality” tricked people into feeling that it’s already done from this video. And if people need to announce their goal, they should announce it in a way that doesn’t give them satisfaction. I think this is a good idea and I agree with it. For my experience that I mentioned, I want to announce my goal to my friends. By take advantage of his idea, I can announce my goal, and it doesn’t make me feel satisfaction. It’s depending on the situation, but this way makes me to work hard to achieve my goals.
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Thank you for sharing your idea.
I think this part is very specific and good; If I announce my goal to someone, I can’t change my goal because they know my goal that I made.
and the idea of sharing your goal with the friends is so nice!
Most people are lazy(me too),so it is a good way to keep an eye on and encourage each other.Also that will makes you feel “I am not alone,other friends are working hard then I should do my best too.”
Again, thank you for your incredible ideas!!
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a) What are Sivers’ main points? Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
-Sivers said that it is important to keep your goals in your mind, not out of your mouth. While it is true that we feel satisfied when we achieve our goals, when we are able to talk about our goals and have them recognized, we feel as if we have achieved them, which gives us satisfaction and gives us the illusion that we are closer to our goals. Therefore, he said that we should keep our goals to ourselves. As for the process, if people don’t tell other people about your goals, people will work very hard to achieve them because people will not have the opportunity to be recognized by others until people achieve them. And people would be motivated to work harder because they would be motivated by the recognition of others. Increased motivation also brings them closer to achieving their goals, and people are able to achieve their goals sooner.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
-I understand his opinion, but I disagree with his opinion and I think it’s better to tell people about your goals. Because I think that by telling people your goals, you will become a strong will to make them come true. Also, if people tell other people your goals, I’m sure there will be people who will support me, and when I achieve them, there will be people who will be happy with me. This situation is very motivating for me, and even if it’s tough, I think I’ll definitely make it come true. So my opinion is that people should tell other people your goals. But I think this opinion depends on the person. Because some people may feel embarrassed if they cannot achieve their goals and dreams. But hard work is not in vain, and it will help people’s grow, so if people can do their best by telling people about it, I think people should share their goals and dreams instead of keeping them to themselves.
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Thank you for sharing your ideas.
I agree with answer B. By sharing goals and dreams, you can work together and exchange information. I agree.
Raising each other is one step closer to achieving your dreams and goals!
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Thank you for sharing your opinion. I agree with your idea. I think when we tell our goals to someone, we can continue making effort to achieve our goals with strong will. We may have support and useful information from others, and it leads to encourage us. I also understand that someone may feel embarrassed if their goals can’t be come true. However, announcing our goals will become a good motivation to achieve our goals.
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a) What is Mr. Shivers’ point? Why does Mr. Shivers say his goals should be kept to himself, and how does this process work?
In other words, I think what Shivers is trying to say is, “If you have a dream or a goal, don’t talk about it to others, but work towards it with a strong will only in your own heart.” This is because it is said that talking to people and being acknowledged gives them a sense of satisfaction, and creates the illusion of social realization in their brains. And that sense of security can hinder your actions toward your dreams and goals.
Research shows that if you actually have a dream or goal and keep it in mind, you’re more likely to achieve it. For example, if you talk to someone about your dreams or goals, they might encourage you by saying, “I think you can do it.” In that case, I thought that I would overestimate myself and neglect my efforts.
However, by keeping it hidden in your heart, you can move from impatience to yourself to action.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusions? Why or why not?
Whether or not we tell others about our dreams and goals is up to each individual, but I disagree with Shivers. This is because declaring them to others can put pressure on you and motivate you. He says that when trying to make dreams and goals come true, it can be hard work. I think motivation is important to keep this process steady. If you don’t tell anyone publicly, you can’t feel weak or confide your problems to anyone. I think this leads to a loss of motivation. Also, if you publicly declare your dreams and goals, you may find collaborators or people who have the same dreams and goals. This is just my opinion, but I think networking is very important in life. If you have a network of contacts, you may be able to gather information from collaborators or people who have the same dreams and goals. I believe that by doing so, I might be able to get closer to what I am aiming for.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points? Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
His speech tells us that sharing your goals with others can actually hinder your progress towards achieving them. He uses the example of 163 people in the study to highlight the phenomenon across tests. Then half people announced their goal and others did not announce. Everyone was given 45 minutes of work, they could stop at any time. It was an interesting example, because people who had announced it quit after about 30 minutes. The others who kept their mouths shut worked the entire 45 minutes. Sharing goals would create a false sense of accomplishment, reducing motivation to take the necessary steps to achieve the goal. This could be attributed to the psychological satisfaction from the positive reaction when sharing goals with others. This is because the person might feel a sense of accomplishment when they tell their goals. They believe that they are already on the path to success. It is likely to lead to reduced motivation to take the challenging steps. His main point is that keeping goals to oneself can be helpful to success.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I tend to disagree with his conclusion, because as long as you tell your goals with your friends , friends will encourage you so it will be helpful for your success. As a case in point, when I set up my goal, I usually tell my goal with my family and friends. Then, they encourage me when I feel discouraged, so in my case I tell my goal with friends or family, and it is likely to be a success. Even though I am not sure if my goals will succeed or not, I will tell you my goal. This is because if I do not tell my aims, I easily give up, so it is helpful to keep my motivation. Moreover, when my friends tell me their goals or aims, I probably support them. Sharing your goals with friends and family can indeed be a source of motivation and encouragement, helping you stay focused and determined. Each person’s experience can vary, and what works for one may not necessarily work for another. It’s essential to find what approach works best for you and supports your journey towards success. From my perspective, I have the opposite opinion with his conclusion.
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a) In my opinion, Sivers’ thesis statement is that people who want to achieve their goal should not to feel satisfied until they do it. They need some steps that need to be done and they need some work that needs to be done in order to achieve. They must not be satisfied until they’d actually done the work and step. Some people tend to be satisfied by speaking their goal to other people. It is called “substitution” psychologically and it is created by “social reality” that when people tell someone their goal and someone acknowledge it; it makes people feel satisfaction.
b) I don’t agree with Sivers’ conclusion. He showed us the proof of like, phycologists Kurt Lewin, Peter Gollwitzer, Peter Gollwitzer, and the experiment. I really suspicious of them. Were their opinion and examinations based different culture, ethnicity, areas, countries and generations? I think that many Asian people, such as Japanese or east Asian people don’t tend to say their opinion frankly and be modest. For example, some Japanese people think that humbleness and patience are virtue of modesty. In fact, some Japanese people don’t want to talk their big decision or dream to other people. They don’t feel good to say them and they try not to feel satisfied about their achievement. I think that feeling satisfied when they speak their goal depends on people, especially related many factors such as culture, ethnicity, areas, and generations. I think those phycologists’ opinion came from European people, Cristian religion and western culture, not people all over the world. The phycologists have to test again and again with people in the world. How about Asian people and how about people in Africa? In Asia or Afrika, people are very different across areas. European people may be different between north, east, west and south. The result may be different from Sivers’ suggestion. But individual people are different in a way, don’t have stereotype. However, I agree that people who want to achieve their goal should not to feel satisfied until they do it because I think that it makes people more ambitious.
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His main point of view is that even if you have a goal, you should not share it with others. That is, one should not talk about the goal because talking about it makes it less likely to be achieved. Blessings and positive feelings from others create a “social reality. This feeling creates an illusion in the mind, making one feel as if he or she has already achieved the goal. Experimental results show that those who verbalize their goals spend less time working on them and are no closer to achieving them. On the other hand, those who did not speak up, despite having spent plenty of time on the task, have a sense that they are far from achieving their goals. His belief is that if you want to achieve a goal, you should keep it to yourself and have a strong desire to achieve it.
I disapprove of his idea. Because if I kept my goals to myself and didn’t tell anyone, I would be lazy. Besides, by saying my goals out loud to others, they will understand and support me. In turn, because they support me, I want to achieve my goals for them. Also, by saying your goals out loud, they may come closer to you. For example, if I tell my friends about my goal and they have more information about it than I do, there is a greater benefit than if I did not tell them. The Japanese language has a word, “Kotodama,” which refers to the mystical spiritual power believed to be possessed by words. Words have spiritual power and have the power to manifest the results of what is said. I believe in this word. In fact, I believe that the more you speak out your goals, the more likely they are to be realized.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
His main point is when people have goals, they shouldn’t say it to someone. Because when people tell their goals, feeling good and misunderstood that these goals are becoming part of their identity. Then the mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it’s already done. Psychologists named that situation “Social reality”. In that situation, people feel satisfaction due to telling their goals, then people lose their motivation to actually do that. In 1933, Wera Mahler found when a goal was acknowledged by others it felt real in the mind. Based on these reasons, he suggested that you could resist the temptation to announce your goal, and you can understand that your mind mistakes the talking for the doing. If you want to tell the goal to someone, you should say that without satisfaction.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I don’t agree with his ideas. In my opinion, his method works just for goals that come from extrinsic motivation. Because those goals are not your goals. These are based on someone’s expectations or you expect you get a reward from someone when you achieve your goals.
I have two reasons. First, when I tell my goals to someone, I feel “I should do that one, because I already told someone.” So for me, telling my goal is making me scared because if I don’t do that I’m becoming a liar. When I considered coming to Canada, I talked with my friends and I tried to say my goals as much as possible. During the conversation, my friends asked me questions such as “Why do you want to go to Canada?” or “Do you want to live there? or Just for a few years?” These questions inspired me to think about my future.
The second reason is when I buy something to achieve my goals, I feel my goal is closer than before. Such as buying a book for study and buying fitness equipment. At that moment I agreed with his ideas. For instance, I feel that I did something for my future even if I just buy a grammar book. I have a lot of books that I didn’t read. For these reasons I explain above, I don’t agree with his ideas.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
If you tell someone about your goal, you feel achievement since the moment. So if you want to solve or reach the goal, you have to close your mouth. Some researchers said the feeling guide to reduce your motivate. In 1933, Wera Mahler found that when it was acknowledged by others, it felt real in the world. In 1982, Peter Gollwitzer wrote a whole book about this, and after that, in 2009, he conducted some new investigations that were published. . In conclusion, the first group that people said they can go a long way, but the group average was 33 minutes.(Sivers, 2010) However, the other group’s time was longer than the first group, making it clear what is needed for achievement. As you can understand from this video, the consequence of the research clearly shows us the opinion is correct. Nonetheless, If you want to tell someone about your goal, you have to state it in a way that doesn’t give you immediate satisfaction. For example, you can ask someone to kick your ass if you don’t follow through with it. But the best way is you don’t say anything about your goal.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I agree with his opinion because I have experienced the same thing myself. When I try to work on a diet, I tend to share it with everyone, seeking praise for my efforts. Hearing compliments from others makes me feel satisfied, and as a result, I stop putting in effort. I have a tendency to get easily bored and while I may start strong, I struggle with consistency, and I have never been able to stick to my goals for more than a month. However, hearing his opinion made me realize some improvement strategies, and I would like to try implementing them now. It’s the perfect opportunity since it’s summer, and I’ve been wanting to go on a diet. I’ll give it a try and see how it goes.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
I understand why you agree with his conclusion, it will be good fo you to try his ideas this summer.
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1) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Siver’s main point is people should not tell someone their personal goal. Because when we tell someone it and they acknowledge it, we get a good feeling like the goal is already done. This makes us less likely to do what needs to be done for a goal.
Psychologists have found that it’s called a “social reality.” The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it’s already done. And then because you’ve felt that satisfaction, you’re less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary.People should resist the temptation to announce their goal, but if they do need to talk about something, they should say their task for the goal.
2) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I agree with him totally. I think if people tell others their personality goal, they don’t deny it and acknowledge it because they would like to support it. However, some people have the motivation of a goal that they want to be praised, then it has already been done when they told someone their goal. Keeping motivation is important to continue the efforts, and people should not get satisfaction before the achievement of goals. Also, I agree with the end of his statement, “I really want to run this marathon, so I need to train five times a week and kick my ass if I don’t, okay?” If people open their task, not their goal, then they feel pressured to do it, because they don’t want to be a liar. It makes them do what they should do.
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a) Sivers’ point is that we should keep our personal goals secret because when we tell someone about our goals, our mind starts to trick itself into thinking that the goal has already been achieved because of people’s reaction, so our brain thinks that the goal itself has already been accomplished, when in fact it hasn’t yet. So Sivers says that we should keep our goals secret so that they can be completed in the best possible way, without any kind of distraction, carrying out the whole process in complete silence and only talking about your goals after they have already been achieved.
b) I do agree with Sivers’ conclusion, however I believe that our goals can be told to specific people who are close to their social circle because these people often help us achieve ours or even encourage us to accomplish them, because many times we just need an incentive coming from a person we love or even from our family members, but I believe that the best option is to keep our goals a secret because there are many envious people in the world who can do anything to be able to disturb you for the long haul. I simply speak of them not wanting your success and getting in the way of your goals. It is very important that you keep your plans in such a way that only you have control over them, so that if you fail to achieve your goal, the demerit is completely yours and then you can learn exactly where you went wrong or left it wrong. and improve for future attempts.
It is also important to understand that when we do not share our goals with others we feel more motivated to achieve them, because it is always good to impress people who did not trust our potential before and then when the final result is presented they are surprised and start finally valuing you the way it should have been from the start. Our mind can be easily deceived in different ways, so it is very important to understand how it works and know how not to be deceived by the mind itself.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Derek Sivers’ idea of keeping personal goals secret makes a lot of sense. When we share our goals with others, we might indeed experience a sense of satisfaction prematurely due to their positive reactions or encouragement. It’s like getting a reward before actually putting in the effort to achieve the goal. This early satisfaction can be counterproductive, leading to a reduced drive and motivation to work hard towards the goal.By keeping our goals to ourselves, we can avoid this potential pitfall. It allows us to maintain a strong internal drive and keeps our focus solely on the process of achieving the goal. Without the distractions of outside opinions or premature praise, we are more likely to stay committed and dedicated to the necessary steps.
b)Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
The idea proposed by Derek Sivers regarding keeping personal goals secret to avoid premature satisfaction and maintain focus does have its merits. There is some psychological basis to suggest that sharing goals with others can lead to a sense of accomplishment without actually having achieved the goal, potentially reducing the motivation to work towards it. By keeping goals private, individuals might be more inclined to stay committed and driven to succeed. Because of this I agree with his affirmation about keeping our goals to ourselves and working on it as harder as we can.
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The main point is that you should not tell people your goals and what you are going to do to reach it,because it eventually makes the likelihood you can attain your goal less.
I will explain how it goes on.
FIrst, you let people know what you want to achieve.By doing so, you feel that people regard you as a person who has a big dream and is challenging yourself. That imagination gives you satisfaction and you are tricked into thinking you are closer to achieving the goal.Even though there are steps that need to be done left.In that case,you are less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary and so the likely you can attain your goal is getting less.So if you want to reach your goal, keep your mouse shut and just working hard.That is what Siver wants to tell the listener.
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I do not agree with Sivers’ conclusion,because there are some cases where they begin to see clearly what they should do only by telling someone what they want to be like in the future and discussing with surrounding people what needs to be done to reach that goal.So I think his method works with people who have a clear image of what they should do and can keep working themselves.But the beginner and people stuck should actively talk with someone and ask for advice.I am sure that make it easier for them to reach their goal.
If telling people your goal makes you feel you are closer to achieving the dream,it is just that you are not so desired to attain your goal in fact.
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Thank you for sharing your opinion.
I can remember how talking to others can help me organize my thoughts and make me aware of new things.I find it very difficult to solve problems alone when I am stuck, so I find talking to others is a great way to help.And I especially agree with the last sentence. I think it ultimately depends on a person’s willpower.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
His main point that we should not say what is your personal biggest goal because if people say something to someone, they might be satisfy it which it says the only telling someone. That is why Sivers say that people have to keep our goals to ourselves. He talked about example that it is “social reality”. It seems like that some psychologists have found that the mind is kind of trick into feeling that it’s already done. As a result, it might be that our motivation could be decreasing due to satisfaction. In conclusion, he said that people have to try to delay the gratification that the social acknowledgement brings. And also, it suggests that people should understand about it is important that no satisfaction which can be led to get our goals.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I don’t agree with this opinion because when I was kid, my mother told me a lot about how to get my achievements. She said if you want to dream come true, you should say directly it to someone or openly as my pride. So, I believe that if people have goals or something purpose in the future, people should say that. By doing so, people can keep high motivation that they to make their dreams come true. I n addition, if I say some my goals to family, friend or teacher and so on, they could be help and support me. For those reasons, I can’t agree that suggestion. However, he showed that many proofs might be good effect. That’s why I’d like to try to it which don’t say my goals someday.
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Thank you for sharing your ideas.
I totally agree with your opinion on why you disagree with his conclusion. I like your reason that if you want to ‘ dream come true’ , you probably should tell someone that goal. Also, it sounds like a good idea to try his way.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Sivers believes that it’s best to keep our goals to ourselves. When we share our goals with others, we may feel a false sense of accomplishment, which can make us less likely to work towards achieving them. Psychology tests have shown that when we tell someone our goals, our mind tricks us into thinking we’ve already made progress, even when we haven’t. So, instead of sharing our goals, it’s better to keep them to ourselves. This way, we stay motivated and work harder to make them happen.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I have mixed feelings about the speaker’s perspective. On one hand, I agree that feeling satisfied from within can boost one’s confidence in achieving goals. However, I believe this can vary depending on a person’s personality. Some individuals share their goals with others because they need external motivation. When they meet their friends later, they feel accountable and motivated to work harder, not wanting to appear as someone who talks big but doesn’t follow through. So, they face questions about their progress and goals, which acts as a driving force. On the other hand, I personally tend to keep my goals to myself and work hard to achieve them. While this approach allows me to focus and be self-reliant, it can take more time since there’s no external pressure or support. I become the sole judge of my progress and success, and it can be challenging at times. To conclude, I believe achieving goals requires finding the approach that suits each individual best. For some, adding external motivation and sharing progress with a partner could be beneficial, while others may find success in pursuing their goals quietly and independently.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
His main point is that if you want your goal to happen, don’t tell people until it does.
This is because when people recognize you before you put in the effort, you feel socially realized, and your mind will be tricked into believing that you have already achieved it.As evidence of this, he cites social psychologists Kurt Lewin, Wera Mahler, and Peter Gollwitzer.In recent years, new experimental results were also published in 2009, which support his claims.So what should we do?He says that it is important to understand the psychology of mistaken identity.So, if we can tell people in a way that does not give them a sense of satisfaction, we can get through the hard work we have to do to realize our goals.
b)Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I agree with him a bit. Because I too have had the experience of being satisfied with telling others. However, I believe that some people can achieve their goals even if they tell others, while others cannot. In other words, I believe it varies from person to person. One reason for this is the cognitive dissonance theory in psychology. This theory explains the phenomenon of “justifying” behavior by changing one’s thoughts in order to resolve the anxiety felt when one’s thoughts and actions contradict each other. For example, suppose you tell someone that you want to be able to speak English. But then you do not study. Then you feel uncomfortable because there is a contradiction between the idea that you should study and the situation that you are slacking off. Then you justify your thinking “It is not efficient to study when you are tired. Let’s start tomorrow”. By doing so, they can avoid the discomfort. However, some people are able to continue their efforts, “I will study for the sake of those who support me”. From these considerations, I believe that everything is left to the strength of a person’s will. Knowing oneself through psychology in the process is one of the effective ways to achieve one’s goals, but I do not think it is the whole story.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
His main points are when we have a personal biggest goal, we should not state it to someone and keep it to ourselves in order to achieve our goal through some necessary steps and work to be done. The reason why we should keep our goals to ourselves is that it leads to decreasing the possibility to accomplish it. Once we tell someone our goal and they recognize it and praise us, we fool ourselves into thinking that it’s already done and acquire the satisfaction. However, this kind of satisfaction is brought by the social acknowledgement instead of by approaching the goal with efforts step by step, and it results in making our motivation to do necessary hard work lower.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I disagree with his opinion. I think announcing our goal sometimes helps us continue making effort in order to achieve the goal. We would be encouraged by someone whom we told our goal and try to live up to their expectations. We also keep our mind to aim our goal by telling ourselves as well as others. In addition, we might also receive the useful information from others by announcing it. Thus, I think stating our goal is useful to achieve it.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
His main point is that we should not tell everyone our goals or keep in secret he believes that when telling someone our goals can bring problems one of them I’ts when you are talking about your goals you imagine their congratulations, the high image of you and you feel one step closer already, however, that feeling will make you less likely to do it so he said we need to keep our goals as secret also he provides that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen so your mind is kind of tricked into feeling that’s I’ts already done he said Psychologists named that situation “Social reality” also he mentioned Kurt Lewin, Wera Mahler and Peter Gollwitzer that provide his point. finally, he said there are 2 solutions that we can do the first is we could resist the temptation to announce our goal or if we need to talk about someone we can state it in a way that gives us no satisfaction.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
In my opinion, I agree but also disagree because I think I’ts depend on the situation, the people around you and your personality so in my case when I told my goals to my friends I felt that’s my goal already done I’ts difficult feeling but sometimes happened for example when I said for my friends that I need to finish my homework today and I’m working in that I felt I’ts almost done and after I take a rest for more than 2 or 1 hour and I finished so late but I’ts depend more in the person because if you have the dedication you can tell for everyone and your goals never changing so I think I’ts depend for your personality also about your close friends because if you have a good relationship with your friends you can tell them and they can give you motivation and congratulations
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The main point of his talk were that in order to achieve our goals we should keep them to ourselves and not tell anyone what our goal is, and also that people that do not share what ther goals are are more likely to achieve them, and explains why this is because the reaction the brain gets out of sharing them it makes our brain think we already achieve it and Siver’s also shows proof of this he shows some studies that were made about this, this study that he shows they did a test with two groups of people one that have share their goal and one thet haven’t and the group the haven’t share their goal actually workedd harder then the other group that have. Siver’s says that we should keep our goals to ourselves because by keeping them to ourselves it is most likely that we are going to achieve them, this works because when we share our goal to someone else and thay tell us nice things about it we get a satisfaction out of that and our brains acts as we already achieve them and this leads us to not achieving our goals, and that is why we should keep our goals to ourselves, I do agree with Siver’s conclusion because he shares proof and that makes it more believable and also because of personal experience, you always see people sharing all the things they want to to or things they want to achieve but you never really see them doing them or achieving them and there are people who keep quite and suddenly they surprise you with something they have done or achieve, so I really agree with the keep it to yourself Siver’s says in his talk, I think it is better to share anything, once you have done or achieve something than before you have and i think the satisfaction you would get would be bigger than when you share your goal before achieving it.
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