Due: Thursday before 8:30 a.m.
- Watchthe TED Talk by Derek Sivers and take notes.
Link: https://www.ted.com/talks/derek_sivers_keep_your_goals_to_yourself?language=en
- Answerthe following questions in paragraph form(350-400 words) by typing your response in the comments section below.
- a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
- b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
You will be marked on the quality of your response and your response to other students’ posts:
9-10: Excellent and insightful; response shows superb understanding and critical analysis; contains great details and responds to complex ideas
7-8: Good; response shows thoughtful understanding; contains good details and responds to ideas
5-6: Satisfactory; response shows a basic understanding; contains basic details and responds only to major ideas
3-4: Unsatisfactory; response shows some misunderstanding; contains insufficient details and does not fully respond to the main ideas
1-2: Poor; response shows poor understanding; contains no details and does not respond to the task
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
According to video, Sivers’ main idea is we should keep our goals in our mind. Telling someone our goals makes them less likely to happen. The moment we tell someone goal to others, we can feel psychologically satisfied as if we had achieved our goals. I think this mean is the moment we tell someone goals to others, we can’t think earnestly about our purpose anymore. Sivers’ said that is we have a process for achieve our goals. The process is we don’t satisfy until achieve real goals. This may mean that if we feel accomplishment before achieve the goal, it will be difficult to achieve it.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I disagree about Sivers’ opinion. I think the more often I say and think about goals, the more likely to achieve them. Of course, I agree Sivers’ said that telling someone our goals makes them less likely to happen. However, even if you already feel accomplishment, such as achieving a goal, that feeling is clearly fake. After we feel fake feeling, we will come back to reality and try harder to feel real. In my case, I am convinced more to my goal after say to someone about my purpose. During say my goal, I think ‘Wow, I really want to achieve my dream!’. Moreover, I also made a commitment to keep it because many people know my dream. Therefore, I disagree Sivers’ conclusion.
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(a)He suggests that people who tell someone their goal realize that their mind is kind of ticked into feeling that it is already done when they tell someone goals and knowledge it. This interesting situation is called “social reality”.
According to study, after 163 people wrote down their personal goal, half of them announced their commitment to this goal in the room and half of them didn’t announce. Then, they were given 45 minutes to accomplish their goal and they could stop at any time. In result, the farmer did quit only 33 minutes on average because they felt much closer to achieve their goal. On the hand, the latter worked the entire 45 minutes on average because they felt that they had a long way to achieve their goal.
(b)I don’t agree his opinion that telling someone our goal makes it less motivated. I suggest that we should tell someone our dream or goal. There are two reasons. Firstly, we can change our consciousness by telling others own goal. For example, Ichiro who are very famous baseball player in the US made a big dream came true. His dream was becoming a major leaguer. When he was junior high school student, his friends told him that they would hold a reunion when they became 20. However, he rejected their offer because he was convinced that he would play an active role as a baseball player in the US. Amazingly, he finally fulfilled this dream by announcing his big dream.
In my experience, I have been thinking of how my English can improve before I came in Canada to study abroad. One of my friends who are studying English in the US energized me. She always tries to study hard. I decided to study abroad thanks to her. As that cases, we are often stimulated by environment surrounding us like our friends and family. I think that it is better to introduce someone’s effort to ourselves. In conclusion, It is certain to make our motivation improve greatly and we can de confidence through we do tell someone surrounding us dream or goal.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
The main point of Seaver’s lecture is to keep your goal secret. Because he said that the pleasure people feel when speaking their goals weakens the desire and motivation to put it into practice, making it difficult to realize their goals. Also when we tell others our goals, we feel that it has already been done psychologically. Satisfaction of emotion diminishes our willingness to put it into practice. There was an experiment that proved his opinion. Of the 164 people who went through four experiments, half expressed goal and half did not say their goal. Only those who had not spoken hope for 45 minutes continued to work. Those who spoke of goal quit in 33 minutes. Because they believed that their goal came true. In conclusion, the point Seaver’s wants to tell us is that the goal we have is to keep it a secret.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I disagree with him. Because when I tell someone my goal, I work hard to keep it. For example, my goal is to find a job related to English. If I say so, people around me will expect my goal. I will do my best because I want to achieve my goal. By saying so, the expectations and praise given to me by the people around me after achieving my goal can be the driving force for me to make other goals come true. Therefore, I think telling someone my goal rather strengthens my willingness to put it into practice
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Sivers said if you have biggest personal goal, don’t say it to anyone. If you tell anyone the goal, you would feel good and the good feeling makes you less motivated to achieve the goal. When you talk about your personal goal, you would be satisfied as if you already achieved or feel close to the goal even if you haven’t done anything. The satisfied feeling disturbs you to achieve your goal. Therefore, to achieve a personal goal, you need to be a little unstable or uneasy by not telling it until you achieve the goal.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
Sivers said telling a goal is bad way to achieve your goal and explained why and showed an experiment about that. I doubt what he explained and the experiment. I think there were a few problems in the experiment and that makes people such as Sivers misunderstand the result of experiment. I totally disagree with his opinion. In my case, whenever I had a personal big goal like losing weight, going to Canada to study or plan to travel abroad, I talked it to my friends and I achieved most of them. If I tell my friends my personal goal, I will try to achieve the goal because I don’t want to be a liar and an untrustworthy person. Actually, I think telling the goal is not important. If someone is lazy, it is almost impossible to achieve the personal big goal whether he or she tell the goal or not. If someone don’t achieve a goal, they are just lazy and try to make an excuse like the factor. What I want to say is don’t think about the achieving factor.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
According to Tedtalk, Siver’s main point is you need to have your goals in mind. Because the moment you talk about your goal to others, you feel like your goal is already realized psychologically, so your motivation become weak. Many psychologists found many experiments that if you were to talk about your wishes, you would be difficult to come true. Therefore, When I have a goal or dream, it is not to let others know. However if you want to talk about your goals, you have to talk about them in a way that doesn’t satisfy you.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I disagree Siver’s opinion. Because Siver is talking about psychological element. Of course, as Siver said, there are some people can weaken their motivation when they talk about goals to other people. However, that is just a psychological thing. In my experience, I wanted to study architecture since I was young and told my friends and family that I will go architecture department. Thus, I studied harder to achieve the goal that I talked about and eventually achieved my dream. In my case, I studied harder to keep what I said. Like my experience, everyone will feel different. While there are people who talk about goals and have less motivation, there are people like me who try harder to keep up with what they talk. Therefore I disagree Siver’s conclusion.
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What are Sivers’ main points? He said if people ask you about your goals, keep silence. Due to when you talk about your goals and people congratulate you it produces a feeling to satisfaction and accordance. As a result, you go not to hard work the necessary to achieve your goal. In addition, Derek explains how the psychologist calls it a Social reality that means the instants you speak about your goals your mind thinks that you already are done with this action. In consequence, you less the motivation to start or follow it and the results wouldn’t be better. However, If you feel that you need to tell someone your future plans, could work.
On the other hand, when you don’t tell anything and you follow the steps to achieve whatever you want, either learn new languages, lose weight, start a healthy diet or get a new job, your probability to be successful could be higher.
In conclusion, I agree with Derek’s advice. Mainly, he has the psychologists’ studies to support his advice. Second, it is not the first time that I listen about don’t tell my goals with others. Actually, my high school’ teacher was the first to give my classmates and me this advice. The second person to talk to me about was my friend, she never speaks about her goals until she is near to achieve it. In fact, she always tells me her futures plans or her goals when she already has done. Due to it if my goals are not almost complete I don’t say a lot. Although I try to follow it, it is really difficult don’t talk about that and receive good comments. Another reason, it is maybe a little bit superstition, I believe in positive and negative energies and it is not always good to speak about you, sometimes there are people don’t have good desires to you.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves?
How does this process work?
According to siver´s he said don’t tell anyone your goals because if you telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen, when you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, the psychologist have found that it’s called a “social reality” when the mind is kind of tricked into feeling that its already done, and then because you felt that satisfaction, you´re less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary.
And he proves that, 163 people across four separate tests, every one wrote their personal goal, then half of them announced their commitment to this goal to the others and a half didn’t.
Then everyone was given 45 minutes of work, that would lead them to their goal, and they could stop any time.
The people who didn’t say their goal worked the entire 45 minutes on average and when asked afterward, they feel that had a long way to go still to achieve their goal.
And those who say their goal quit after only 33 minutes on average and when asked afterward, said that they felt much closer to achieving their goal.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I’m in the middle, I think when you have a common goal with someone, that can help you to reach more easily your goal, because there are motivation from each other, when you have a goal it’s because you really want that, so you need to put some motivators on it like for example: passion, persistence and strength, and that’s can helps you to don’t give up so easily and to keep working on achieving your goal.
I believe when you don’t achieve your goal, maybe it’s because you really don’t want it.
But now after see the conference of siver’s I have the knowledge and know how the mind works, that makes me think, that is true? Or it’s a coincidence, however people get used to share their goals with the rest maybe because they need that feel of acknowledge from the others.
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a)What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
In this video, Sivers talked about we should not say our goal , Because the probability of achieving the goal decreases.this is a main point in this video. He proofread using some examples . For example, He introduces the tests performed in 2009. This divides the 160 subjects into halves who speak our goal or not. And then, they had to prepare something ,which is related to our goal for 44 minutes. This result is interesting.because people who talked about goals stopped working on the way . From such a experimental results, he states that the goal should not say other people
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
In my opinion, I agree this presentation . Because, He said talking with people made them happy and did not work hard .However, I know that there are opinions that telling people can have a responsibility. But I don’t think this is true for everything and everyone, because a goal that is unrelated to others depends on your satisfaction. So, from such as experience and the evidence he spoke, I agree with the opinion
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a) Siver’s main points are about to keep your goals just to yourself, basically if you set a goal and you tell it to any anybody, Friends, family or any other person, then it brings you the feeling of satisfaction in advance like if you’ve already done, so that satisfaction will make you feel you’re closer to reach your goal than you’re really are, so there is much more probability to fail and quit your goals. According to reserches made trought many years ago, it is found that people who dont tell their goals to anyone they feel there is still long way to go and get it, but it’s opossite for people that speak up their goals.
b) I agree for one simple reason, the people’s opinions always bring you some kind of effect in your actions, some can have less or more impact than others, but some small noise keeps in ears. In this case feeling of satisfaction is the small noise that keeps intrinsicly and it avoid to reach really your goals; brain tricks you, it’s practically like your goals are done already just telling them someone but in reality they are not done at all. Here It’s where I truly believe that brain have such a powerful over our behavior, even though we don’t realize directly.
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A-) Sivers’ main point is about the frequent mistake do it by people, this mistake is the announcement to friends or another person about personal goals in life. He mention about the satisfaction that someone feels when he tell to another one what he is going to do and the consequences that this action could lead into. Sivers says that it is better to keep our goals to ourselves because we will not be affected by the consequence of this fact, that is the feeling that make you less likely to achieve your goal. It´s satisfactory but telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen. This procedure is carried out by a series of factors, let us suppose that you have a goal and there are some work that needs to be done to achieve it. You would not be satisfied until you finish the work, but when you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, according to psychologists the phenomenon known as “Social reality” will happen. The social reality is a kind of trick that affect the mind leading it into a feeling of satisfaction because they think the goal is already done and that is why then you will be less motivated to do your actual hard work.
B-) I agree with Sivers´ conclusion, I think the best award from a goal is the achievement of it, regardless how difficult it could be during the process and all the sacrifices that you did before making it public. The simple fact of knowing that you accomplish what was your purpose long ago will give you all the satisfaction that you desired before reaching it. It could maybe be difficult to resist the temptation to announce your goal. truly, it will delay the gratification that the social acknowledge brings to you, but all the effort that you put on it will be worth it in the end. This is an incredible fact that is useful for anyone in this world because if someone start creating this habit, he will be able to make all his goal a reality. We must put this on practice to check it out the difference.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Derek Sivers suggest that the next time some one ask us about our goals and aspirations, we should think twice before to share that information, due to a psychologist effect that could it prevent to accomplish. In other words, Mr Sirvers warns that there is an effect in our mind playing unconsciously a role against us. This psychologist effect works thanks to social approval. So, telling our goals before to achieve them, give us the fake sensation than we already accomplished, a previous satisfaction, almost like a an a false reality between us and our own close social group. Also, this theory has been supported by some scientific studies. For example, the last study reported by the video, show how in average the people how don’t announce their goals front of people who does, are more probably to accomplish more accomplish them. Ergo more efficients.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
From my stance and by my own experience I totally agree, even before to watch this video. I had the same theory, and I realize this effect is relative to how you care about people opinion. So, that means, the natural sense of be approved by others. For example, my idea made sense at first time when I was a teenager in high school, So I told a goal inside my social group of friends and family circle. then I could not accomplish satisfactory. As result, I have celebrated with my friends and family, made me feel more close to achieve that goal than I really was, just because I felt confident. So, from that moment, deleying the gratification that social ksnoledments brings has become in a recurrent tool in my life.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
In the video, Sivers’ main ideas are keeping our goals in our mind because announcing our goals will decrease our motivation to make it come true. Sivers said that we should keep our goals to ourselves because when people tell someone their goals, they may get congratulations from someone. Therefore, people will have good feelings when they say their goals out loud. However, that good feelings will make people less likely to do it which have been proven by psychology. According to Sivers’ speech, people feel satisfaction as if the goals are already done when people get acknowledgement from someone because the feeling tricks our mind. This feeling calls “social reality”, it causes people become lazy, and have less motivation to do hard work to achieve their goals. In addition, he mentioned one of proof from Peter Gollwitzer. It proves that when people talk about their goals, they feel much closer to achieve it. As a result, Sivers gave people some advices to get their goals. The first advice is people need to resist the temptation to talk about goals. The second advice is delaying the gratification. The third advice is people use another way to get no satisfaction.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I agree with Sivers’ conclusion because he got evidence in his speech. In addition, I had some experiences about this topic. For example, my friend who always say that she would study abroad for two years, but it never happens. However, I never told anyone I was preparing to study in Vancouver and working hard during the process, then it came true. Therefore, I agree with Sivers’ opinion. If people want to achieve their goals, they should keep their mouth shut.
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a) What are Sivers main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Sivers main points that people should keep goals to ourselves and shouldn’t tell people our goals. In this video, most of researches provided to support if people tell their goals with someone then our brain would received a wrong message which is the goal was finished or the brain would think we almost close the goals ,even goals haven’t started yet. In 2009, a research divided into two groups from 163 subjects and they has 45 minutes for test. One of group keep goals to themselves and another group talk goals with people. The results show that one of group quit after only 33 minutes because they felt closer to finish their goal. On the other side, they felt they had a long way to achieve their goals and then they would do their best to finish goals. Therefore, Sivers think people should keep goals.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
Sivers’s point was good and he had a lot of evidence to provided his thesis, it’s not just personal experience. But In my opinion, it’s possible to disagree with his opinion. If We talk our goals with friend and family, we can get different thinking, new ideas and effective resource from them who have past experience for work or life. Then we can efficiently achieve goals. In my personal experience, I would like talk my goals with friends who has nice experience, wide field of vision and positive attitude. Because my friends always give me some great advices and help me to achieve goals. For example, two years ago, I wanted to do exercises twice a week for health and fitness. Few days later, I talk a goal with my friend, she gave me some information about doing exercise and health food. Also, she would encourage and remind me when I wanted to give up. Therefore, I disagree Sivers’s point.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points? Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
In the video, Dereck Sivers talked about how you should keep your goals just for you, and how science has investigated this type of behavior in humans.Sivers recommendation is, You can understand that your mind confuses talking with doing, but if you need to talk about something, you can say it in a way that does not satisfy you, so that this does not produce your mind, think that it is already easy to achieve your objective and that you will not have any difficulty to do it. I very agree with this because in my life this it me happened, and you lose focus on your goal.
An experiment was performed with 163 people, a test was done in which they had to set their biggest goal. To all people was ask, if their want to say for all people their biggest goal an only the half said yes. The half of the people who told their goals, they finished before writing the steps to follow to achieve their goal, or there were not even many steps to follow to achieve it, but instead the people who did not count their goal, could not finish in time, because them feeling stressfully and they couldn´t put the ideas in order, to achieve the success of your goal.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I agree with the opinion of Sivers and science because, as he said, the scientific studies that have been carried out have shown that when someone says his goal, his mind is tricked into feeling that he has already accomplished his goal, and you have a feeling of satisfaction and this causes you to be less motivated to follow the steps that will lead you to achieve your goal, this is called by scientists “social reality”. And I think counting your goals may have a negative influence on your mind, but it is up to you whether or not you will achieve your goal, how much you want to achieve and where it will take you. To achieve it you have to work and strive, dedicate time, at the end of the road everything you fought for will be worth it.
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In the video, Sivers talked about keep your goals to yourself is important to you can finish with them. Because if you tell someone our goals, they are less likely to happen. The psychologist called this a “social reality”. When your mind is kind of tricked into felling that is already done, then you felt that satisfaction. For this reason, you are less motivated to do steps and the work that you need to be done in order to achieve it. In the other hand, people believe we should tell your friends yours goals, because they can help us to continue to do it. Sivers proved we shouldn’t say nothing by presented many psychologies and one test performed by one of them. Therefore, Sivers give an advice telling what we can do. First, we need to resist a temptation to tell someone your goals. Second, delay the gratification and the last understand that your mind mistake the talking for the doing.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I agree with Sivers because sometimes the opinions of the other person can bring you effect in your actions, can be more or less impact. However, if you have the same goals as your friend, we can help each other achieve it easier. For example, I was trying to lose weight a friend of my help me a lot to go to the gym every day. we encourage ourselves
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
According to this talking, the main point of Sivers lecture is that we shouldn’t tell someone our goals. Because telling someone goals make us be happy and less likely to achieve the goals. We should take a step to achieve goals and there are a lot of difficult things we need to do. However, If you tell goals and feel accepted by someone, you will be satisfied as if you would achieve the goal. Then, you don’t keep a making effort to achieve the goal. Finally sivers said you should understand that your mind mistakes the talking for the doing. Therefore, we should keep the goal in our mind.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I disagree his opinion that people shouldn’t tell someone the goal. Because telling the goal leads to get a lot of information. For example, although you have the dream of becoming a singer and tell your friends it, you don’t know how to be a singer. However, your friend that heard your dream wll advice you and give important information to be a singer because they want to support you. Then, not only can you achieve the goal but also you can get to know each other. Therefore, telling someone the goal is important to get a information to acheive the goal.
The second reason is to have a responsibility for goals. Because telling the goal puts pressure that can’t escape from goals on people. Therefore, It keep trying to acheive the goal and avoid giving up.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points? Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
In this video, Sivers’ main idea is that telling someone your goals makes them less likely to happen. This means that to achieve goals you should not tell your goals to someone. This is because if you said someone about your goals, you would feel satisfied. In 2009, one experiment was done. There were 163 people and all of them kept their goals secret. Half of them announced their commitment and the rest of the half didn’t. Then, they worked for 45 minutes to achieve their goals and could stop their work anytime. As a result, people who didn’t announced their goals kept their work for 45 minutes average. However, people who announced their goals quit in 33 minutes average. Therefore, it is more possible for people who keep their effort secret than people who announced their effort.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I disagree with Sivers’ conclusion. In my opinion, people should announce their goals if they have goals that they certainly want to achieve. Because due to announce goals, people around you will cooperate with you and introduce some information. It will make you easier to achieve your goals. For instance, one of my friend want to be a singer. To achieve her goal, she told her dream to many people. Also, she used Twitter to expand her song. She tweeted movies that she was singing, her live schedule, and her strong feeling that she wanted to cheer up many people. Because of her effort to tell her dream, she became famous. Someone introduced her to appear the live and invited to join the band. Now, she was followed by 10,000 people in Twitter and appear many festival of music. This is because of her announcement of goals. I think she will be more famous by continuing announcement.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
In this video, Siver talks about you should keep your mouth shut because telling someone your goals makes them less likely to happen. This is a main point in this video. When you tell someone your goal and they recognize it, phycologists call it a “social reality”. The mind misunderstand that it is already done. For example, Siver enforced that 163 people across four separate tests. Half of them announced their goal and half did not. They were given 45 minutes to do something and they could stop at any time. People who announced their goal used almost 45 minutes to achieve their goal. On the other hand, people who did not announce gave up to do it. From this experiment, Siver said that the goal should not tell someone.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I agree with Siver’s conclusion. In my opinion, even though I could get motivations when I told someone my goal, I always gave up to achieve my goal. The reason was I had felt satisfied to tell, it was much closer to achieving my goal. For example, when I was in Japan, I wanted to be an architecture and make the future of my house. I sometimes told my friends and parents those dreams. Whenever I conveyed it, my mind was gotten gratification. By this act, now I do not want to be an architecture. If I did not tell someone my goal, I might become an architecture. That’s why I follow Siver’s opinion and if people want to accomplish their goal, they should keep their mouth shut.
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a) What are Sivers main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
The main point of the video is to keep the goal for ourselves because it can allow to have more inspiration to work hard in achieve the objectives. Sivers explains his position about how tell our goals out loud can affect the result. He said that if we say the personal goals to other, people have a positive reaction giving to us a feeling of satisfaction like if it was already done. As a result, we lose the potential that we had before to talk about it. On the other hand, if we keep the mouth shut, we don´t feel any satisfaction until some outcome is achieved. Consequently, we continue our way step by step without acknowledge allowing to concentrate in the goal. He mentioned a research where they found how the person who announced their goal to the room felt much closer to get the aim. People who did not say anything in spite of work more time said that they had a long way to go. In conclusion, Sivers argue the reason to keep the goals in secret for ourselves as it is a strategic to avoid rewards ahead of time.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
I agree with Sivers opinion because in my personal case I prefer don´t say nothing about my dreams. He said that if keep the mouth shut, the probably of reaching the goal is greater. Due of when we talk about our projects the acknowledgment giving us a feeling of satisfaction that prevent keep going in the road. For that reason, I support the Sivers´s thesis. I think the thoughts to other toward our dreams can affect positively or negatively because people can agree or not with us. If the have a positive feeling it can encourage the inspiration but if they give us negative points this can take away our momentum. However, I disagree in a little part with his statement because the goals are all the same. I believe that if you dream is big you need help from others, for example, your family, you boss or even friends. Because perhaps you are taking bad decisions with seriously consequence in your life. Even so, you should choose carefully people who can animate your dream and not instead be a wall for yourself.
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a) What are Sivers’ main points. Why does Sivers say we should keep our goals to ourselves? How does this process work?
Silvers advises if we have our personal biggest goals, we should not tell someone what we are going to do but keep the goals to ourselves. According to the repeated psychology tests, the reason is that saying our goals out loud makes them less likely to happen. Psychologists have found “social reality” originates from telling someone our goals. Due to “social reality”, we are tricked into feeling that our goals has already done. In other words, even though we just put our goals into words and still have not put some steps or work into action to achieve the goals, we feel one step closer already and have already been satisfied. This satisfaction makes us lose our motivation to do the actual hard work necessary and less likely to attain our goals. He remarks on some new tests which has done by Peter Gollwitzer in 2009 to support his idea. In the study, every subject wrote down their own goal, and half of them kept their mouth shut and the rest announced their commitment to this goals. All subjects were told that 45 minutes of work leading them towards their goal were given to them, but that they were allowed to stop at any time. The former worked full time on average and still felt far away from their goals. On the other hand, the latter quit after only 33 minutes on average and felt much closer to achieving their goals.
b) Do you agree with Sivers’ conclusion? Why or why not?
In the end of this video, Sivers suggests some solutions for our achieving our goals. Firstly, we have to resist being tempted to tell someone our goals in order to postpone the gratification as much as possible. Secondly, we should acknowledge that our mind mistakes the talking for the doing. Furthermore, we need to state our goals, trying not to feel satisfied. I disagree with his opinion that we should keep our goals to ourselves because I don’t think this approach has an effect on everyone. In my case, if I tell someone nothing, I tend not to make efforts to achieve my goals. The reason is that there is nobody who blames me for my not acting for my goals. Whereas, when I say my goals out loud, moderate pressure which others put on me makes me work hard. Therefore, keeping their goals to themselves is meaningless for some people like me. Whether not telling goals to someone is a good way or not depends on the person.
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The speaker says that we must keep our goals to ourselves. He explains that when we tell our goals to others, people congratulate us. This incentive brings us a sense of accomplishment. In this way, we feel as if part of our goal has already been overcome. Therefore, it makes us want it less.I agree with him on this point. I believe that the sense of accomplishment can harm us. That’s because it brings us the feeling of accomplishment, when in fact we still haven’t done anything. To support his thesis, the speaker presents some psychological studies that show us that by telling others about our goals, we end up wanting less. To achieve our goal, we need to strive for it, step by step, overcoming our difficulties. Thus, you are not satisfied before you reach them. Research shows this. The first calls this substitution. This mean that we replace our desire to achieve something with the sense of accomplishment. The second says that this happens because we feel like it is already real in our mind. The third survey tested people. This study did divide people into groups and they had some goals. One group counts its objectives and the other does not. The group that counts its objectives is discouraged from reaching it. These studies end up showing how we can be accommodated in our goals. When we reach some stages, we feel good. This brings a feeling of comfort. In this way, we end up damaging our final goal. He then presents us with solutions to this problem. We can resist the temptation to tell people our goals. I do not agree with the speaker on this point. I believe that we need to share our goals. This can be useful. That’s because there are more experienced people who can help us. The help of these people can save us from making mistakes. This can make our goal easier to overcome. We can ignore the gratification that compliments bring. I believe that the second solution is the best. We need to understand that to achieve a goal we need effort. Our mind must be prepared to hear compliments and ignore them. After all, you still haven’t achieved anything. Yet, we can understand that our mind is wrong when we talk about it. But, if you really need to speak, you can speak in a way that does not bring you satisfaction. To conclude, the speaker concludes by saying that we should not talk about our plans with anyone. I don’t see that as absolute truth. I believe that the main point is that you don’t let yourself get out of focus. Your mind needs to be trained. In this way, you will be able to achieve your goals.
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